So, I didn't get a parking ticket today that I *totally* would have deserved (I forgot I parked my car at a meter and left it there the ENTIRE day... and they're strict about enforcement around here!) So, I['m chalking that up to good Karma for facing my avoidance issues...!
Atlas got in touch with me re: my note, and it went well, I think!
His response:
I've been going very slowly these past weeks, and can understand if it causes frustration. My default disposition in recent years is caution because I have had difficult experiences, but you've been exceptionally fair and very kind.*
I agree with you; Friday felt very awkward, which set me back a bit because we had fun on previous nights. It made me think over the situation these past few days. Early on, I felt that we had rapport and some commonalities. However, I feel it's not enough to go deeper than friends.
Regardless, I think we should still be friends and hang out if you're willing to do that. If not, I'll completely understand.
Thanks for getting in touch, and I'll talk to you later.
-Atlas
Situation resolved and everyone gets to feel good about it! Yippee!
So, any of you want his number?
(Of course the tragic part is that I've been getting no hits on my profiles recently, which means for a slow blog and an even slower love life!)
*Also, Do you think I can use " "exceptionally fair and kind"-Says Former Date! " as a testimonial in my profiles! Ha!
Showing posts with label karma. Show all posts
Showing posts with label karma. Show all posts
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Karma!
NPapaya has just informed me that former major crush, IT guy- (background here) has been checking her out on match.com.
I am very amused given that IT guy threw me over to date some other girl, and did it in a kinda harsh way -(Actually telling me while leaning in for the kiss that he just wasn't that into me.)
So... Bwahahahahahaha!
Sure, I'm back on the interwebs looking for love too, but I somehow feel vindicated by this...
I am very amused given that IT guy threw me over to date some other girl, and did it in a kinda harsh way -(Actually telling me while leaning in for the kiss that he just wasn't that into me.)
So... Bwahahahahahaha!
Sure, I'm back on the interwebs looking for love too, but I somehow feel vindicated by this...
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Things could always be worse...
Yes, I've been missing in action for about a week... but that's because I was at the most amazing 3-day wedding extravaganza in San Francisco! So fun! So over-the-top magnificent!
The only damper on things came Wednesday morning when it became clear Proposition 8, an intolerant, discriminatory proposition preventing gays and lesbians to marry passed.
My lovely friends, who have been together 10+ years, got married the Saturday before the election, and now they're in limbo. It's a very sad outcome.
As my friend B. said-- Was there a memo that went out saying "Racism is so passe, everyone hop on the anti-gay train!" Discriminatory propositions also passed in Florida & Arkansas.
While America congratulates itself on electing Obama (Thus proving how we've "overcome" racism... NOT QUITE!), let us not forget there are a few things to be ashamed of as well.
No one is equal until ALL are treated equally.
....
And I'll step off my soapbox to submit a very amusing (though not for her! Sorry, NPapaya!) story!
Enjoy!
************************************
So, some of you know that recently the ex-fiance of a work acquaintance was in
touch with me on match.com. After a bit of debate I decided it was kosher for me
to go out with him at least once. I should mention I don't know why they called
off the engagement or what any of their issues may have been. Our date was
scheduled for tonight.
This morning I checked email and saw two messages from this person sent late
last night. (As an aside, no this is not some sort of Halloween prank).
The first email:
Subject line: Well, I am having a baby
Message
So Sorry, I had NO idea but guess she trapped me? Says she is thinking about
what to do. She never liked my family and to be honest never liked hers myself.
Well, I do wish we had met last year!
Good luck with [your job] and if you see the kid, let me know what he/she looks
like.
----
the second email :
Hi,
Just a follow up. Long night for me. Upon recent news I don't know if dinner is
a good idea tonight. I was looking forward to it but having not been together
with my ex for quite some time was taken aback. Scary for [the ex] too but I
thought to let you know the reason behind me canceling.
To be perfectly honest, I have a feeling it may not be true due to past events
but we will see. So I guess my Match days are over, at least for a while, until
everything figures itself out. Sorry again. I contacted you with honest
intentions but I guess life got in the way.
----
Of course, I have a lot of comments to make, but I'd just like to let the beauty
of these message stand as a testament to how shady and how poor the pickings are
in this area. Let this be a lesson to anyone who is thinking of ditching a nice
guy. Myself included as the perfectly nice, reasonable person I had coffee with
earlier this week has now been bumped up to a prime position as "not crazy."
Laughing in NH,
NPapaya
(Point taken, NPapaya! I'm going out with Atlas again this weekend. I'll keep you posted!)
The only damper on things came Wednesday morning when it became clear Proposition 8, an intolerant, discriminatory proposition preventing gays and lesbians to marry passed.
My lovely friends, who have been together 10+ years, got married the Saturday before the election, and now they're in limbo. It's a very sad outcome.
As my friend B. said-- Was there a memo that went out saying "Racism is so passe, everyone hop on the anti-gay train!" Discriminatory propositions also passed in Florida & Arkansas.
While America congratulates itself on electing Obama (Thus proving how we've "overcome" racism... NOT QUITE!), let us not forget there are a few things to be ashamed of as well.
No one is equal until ALL are treated equally.
....
And I'll step off my soapbox to submit a very amusing (though not for her! Sorry, NPapaya!) story!
Enjoy!
************************************
So, some of you know that recently the ex-fiance of a work acquaintance was in
touch with me on match.com. After a bit of debate I decided it was kosher for me
to go out with him at least once. I should mention I don't know why they called
off the engagement or what any of their issues may have been. Our date was
scheduled for tonight.
This morning I checked email and saw two messages from this person sent late
last night. (As an aside, no this is not some sort of Halloween prank).
The first email:
Subject line: Well, I am having a baby
Message
So Sorry, I had NO idea but guess she trapped me? Says she is thinking about
what to do. She never liked my family and to be honest never liked hers myself.
Well, I do wish we had met last year!
Good luck with [your job] and if you see the kid, let me know what he/she looks
like.
----
the second email :
Hi,
Just a follow up. Long night for me. Upon recent news I don't know if dinner is
a good idea tonight. I was looking forward to it but having not been together
with my ex for quite some time was taken aback. Scary for [the ex] too but I
thought to let you know the reason behind me canceling.
To be perfectly honest, I have a feeling it may not be true due to past events
but we will see. So I guess my Match days are over, at least for a while, until
everything figures itself out. Sorry again. I contacted you with honest
intentions but I guess life got in the way.
----
Of course, I have a lot of comments to make, but I'd just like to let the beauty
of these message stand as a testament to how shady and how poor the pickings are
in this area. Let this be a lesson to anyone who is thinking of ditching a nice
guy. Myself included as the perfectly nice, reasonable person I had coffee with
earlier this week has now been bumped up to a prime position as "not crazy."
Laughing in NH,
NPapaya
(Point taken, NPapaya! I'm going out with Atlas again this weekend. I'll keep you posted!)
Thursday, September 4, 2008
Fetid dating pool around these parts, that's for sure!
My darling, wonderful, brilliant, funny, beautiful friend NPapaya (yes, also of guest-blogging fame over at Sassy Pants' place- Big Girl Underroos) is single. The only reason I can see why she's still single is that there's no one to date in these parts... But, I have to give her credit! She branches out! And she wades into dating pools I wouldn't touch with a mile-long pole. She give people I wouldn't look at once (let alone twice!) a chance. (Because she's a much nicer gal than me!)
She sent me the following:
"I get a sort of perverse pleasure out of seeing people who've tossed me aside or
deemed me unacceptable back on sites like match.com. Now, of course, I have to
concede that I am also still looking, but this is a side point to be addressed
later.
Recently, I became nearly giddy at the sight of a familiar face - more than a
year ago I saw a decent looking fellow online. Not handsome to a fault, but this
was during my "think broadly" period. We happened to work in the same field and
I knew some people at his organization. He seemed worth exploring. After a few
emails we moved to the phone...both of us seemed willing to meet in person and
made plans to check calendars and talk within the week to confirm a time. On the
appointed day, I called and left a message. When a day or two went by I sent a
tentative email asking if all was ok and if he was still interested in getting
together. I never heard from him.
And now, months later, his insipid smile is at the bottom of my matches again.
At times like this I wish there was a dater's feedback option - where you can
leave a helpful heads-up for any others who might fall victim to this
half-hearted gigolo. What is he doing, racking up names and numbers and
reassuring himself that he's desirable, but never actually pursuing a
relationship?
If only I was the type to name names..."
She sent me the following:
"I get a sort of perverse pleasure out of seeing people who've tossed me aside or
deemed me unacceptable back on sites like match.com. Now, of course, I have to
concede that I am also still looking, but this is a side point to be addressed
later.
Recently, I became nearly giddy at the sight of a familiar face - more than a
year ago I saw a decent looking fellow online. Not handsome to a fault, but this
was during my "think broadly" period. We happened to work in the same field and
I knew some people at his organization. He seemed worth exploring. After a few
emails we moved to the phone...both of us seemed willing to meet in person and
made plans to check calendars and talk within the week to confirm a time. On the
appointed day, I called and left a message. When a day or two went by I sent a
tentative email asking if all was ok and if he was still interested in getting
together. I never heard from him.
And now, months later, his insipid smile is at the bottom of my matches again.
At times like this I wish there was a dater's feedback option - where you can
leave a helpful heads-up for any others who might fall victim to this
half-hearted gigolo. What is he doing, racking up names and numbers and
reassuring himself that he's desirable, but never actually pursuing a
relationship?
If only I was the type to name names..."
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