My emotions have been all over the place this week. Poor Jedi. He tries so hard to be patient and understanding.
Sometimes his patience and understanding make me want to scream at him. Sometimes I just want to have a fight, you know that feeling? Like, you're angry at the world for no particular reason and you need to take it out on whoever happens to be close by.
I don't take my anger out on Jedi. But sometimes I still want to.
Jedi doesn't really ever fight. He's usually very even-keeled. Other than general cheerfulness pretty much the only other emotion he exhibits is pouting. (Is that an emotion? or behaviour? We'll just go with it.) Mostly he pouts when he really, really, really wants something (like, yesterday, a Kindle) and something (like, money) stands in his way. At that point, nothing will make him happy again other than getting his hands on the object of his desire. Yes, sometimes I think I'm marrying a 5 year old. (But hey, I have my own 5 year old tendency to throw tantrums, so we'll overlook it.)
Anyway, all this to say that my emotions are all over the place at the moment. The most annoying thing is that I can't figure out whether my emotions are real or hormone induced-- (Which, I hate to say, but it's true. I become very ornery right before my period.)
Usually when it's hormone induced I KNOW that's what it is so I'm able to take a step back and regroup and be calm(er). However, I'm pretty sure that the last pack of birth control I took had something wrong with it. I get it in packs of 3 months worth and usually skip my period. The past 2 month my BC has ... i don't know... konked out early, and I've gotten my period when I'm not supposed to. (On the plus side that means I'm not pregnant. On the minus side-> birthcontrol not working like it's supposed to = scary!) I only realized when I got my period that it was probably THAT reason-- the hormones not working-- That had given me killer migraines and horrible can't-get-out-of-bed depression the week before.
Grrr. and *sigh.*
It would have been helpful to realize the depression was caused by the hormones and NOT because my life is worthless and horrible and the only course of action is obviously/logically to jump off a bridge.
So, there's that.
But, there is also lots of stuff that IS causing me stress and sadness and depression...
Like, my grandfather's failing health and cancer fight. My gandmother (who had a stroke in March) going back into the hospital for emergency surgery yesterday to remove another blood clot. My dad's house being foreclosed on. My dad's diabetes getting worse, and he doesn't have insurance.
And then the petty stuff...
Wedding flowers are costing $450. WHAT THE FUCK is that about!? And we're doing CARNATIONS! The ugliest flower ever! And we're arranging them OURSELVES!!! Why does it cost so much?! So, now I don't know if we should just skip flowers all together. And it's stressing me to think about it.
I can't find wedding shoes. I've tried every shoestore in the tristate area. I've spent over $1000 ordering shoes from Zappos and Bluefly and whatever else. (No worries. Getting money back when I return them.) NOTHING fits. NOTHING is the right color/heel height/style. Everything that would work is either out of stock and on a 15 week backorder (NO JOKE.) or only comes in sizes 5-8. This does not help my BIG FAT FEET. Apparently I'm looking for the holy grail of wedding shoes... Ivory, less than 1inch heel, size 10.5... and, oh, yeah. STYLISH. That last one seems to be the big problem.
Gifts for people who have helped with the wedding. I actually got some really great gifts for cheap at a going out of business sale... but I found out that to customize them it will be $160. Which, still brings the gifts to $9 each... but... that's about $140 more than I had budgeted.
People who haven't RSVP'd. Seriously!? don't even get me started on this.
... and on and on...with stupid wedding details... that are NOT important, but that still need to be thought about/taken care of. *sigh*
I know I brought this on myself, but I'm just lacking the will or energy or anything to care about what happens to the wedding stuff... and at the same time I can't stop being anxious about it.
On the (small) plus side, I decided to take a leap of faith 2 days ago. I have an artistic project cooking that is making me feel hopeful... so, well, hopefully that project will have wings. If it does, I will be sure to share it with you.
Sometimes his patience and understanding make me want to scream at him. Sometimes I just want to have a fight, you know that feeling? Like, you're angry at the world for no particular reason and you need to take it out on whoever happens to be close by.
I don't take my anger out on Jedi. But sometimes I still want to.
Jedi doesn't really ever fight. He's usually very even-keeled. Other than general cheerfulness pretty much the only other emotion he exhibits is pouting. (Is that an emotion? or behaviour? We'll just go with it.) Mostly he pouts when he really, really, really wants something (like, yesterday, a Kindle) and something (like, money) stands in his way. At that point, nothing will make him happy again other than getting his hands on the object of his desire. Yes, sometimes I think I'm marrying a 5 year old. (But hey, I have my own 5 year old tendency to throw tantrums, so we'll overlook it.)
Anyway, all this to say that my emotions are all over the place at the moment. The most annoying thing is that I can't figure out whether my emotions are real or hormone induced-- (Which, I hate to say, but it's true. I become very ornery right before my period.)
Usually when it's hormone induced I KNOW that's what it is so I'm able to take a step back and regroup and be calm(er). However, I'm pretty sure that the last pack of birth control I took had something wrong with it. I get it in packs of 3 months worth and usually skip my period. The past 2 month my BC has ... i don't know... konked out early, and I've gotten my period when I'm not supposed to. (On the plus side that means I'm not pregnant. On the minus side-> birthcontrol not working like it's supposed to = scary!) I only realized when I got my period that it was probably THAT reason-- the hormones not working-- That had given me killer migraines and horrible can't-get-out-of-bed depression the week before.
Grrr. and *sigh.*
It would have been helpful to realize the depression was caused by the hormones and NOT because my life is worthless and horrible and the only course of action is obviously/logically to jump off a bridge.
So, there's that.
But, there is also lots of stuff that IS causing me stress and sadness and depression...
Like, my grandfather's failing health and cancer fight. My gandmother (who had a stroke in March) going back into the hospital for emergency surgery yesterday to remove another blood clot. My dad's house being foreclosed on. My dad's diabetes getting worse, and he doesn't have insurance.
And then the petty stuff...
Wedding flowers are costing $450. WHAT THE FUCK is that about!? And we're doing CARNATIONS! The ugliest flower ever! And we're arranging them OURSELVES!!! Why does it cost so much?! So, now I don't know if we should just skip flowers all together. And it's stressing me to think about it.
I can't find wedding shoes. I've tried every shoestore in the tristate area. I've spent over $1000 ordering shoes from Zappos and Bluefly and whatever else. (No worries. Getting money back when I return them.) NOTHING fits. NOTHING is the right color/heel height/style. Everything that would work is either out of stock and on a 15 week backorder (NO JOKE.) or only comes in sizes 5-8. This does not help my BIG FAT FEET. Apparently I'm looking for the holy grail of wedding shoes... Ivory, less than 1inch heel, size 10.5... and, oh, yeah. STYLISH. That last one seems to be the big problem.
Gifts for people who have helped with the wedding. I actually got some really great gifts for cheap at a going out of business sale... but I found out that to customize them it will be $160. Which, still brings the gifts to $9 each... but... that's about $140 more than I had budgeted.
People who haven't RSVP'd. Seriously!? don't even get me started on this.
... and on and on...with stupid wedding details... that are NOT important, but that still need to be thought about/taken care of. *sigh*
I know I brought this on myself, but I'm just lacking the will or energy or anything to care about what happens to the wedding stuff... and at the same time I can't stop being anxious about it.
On the (small) plus side, I decided to take a leap of faith 2 days ago. I have an artistic project cooking that is making me feel hopeful... so, well, hopefully that project will have wings. If it does, I will be sure to share it with you.
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