This is the email my mother sent in regards to this issue. For once, she actually has a good point. (Shocking I know!)
I could hear you on the phone yesterday and knew that the photos are very important to you.
I looked at both sites. Yes, there is a difference in the style of photos...but could you possibly show her the style you like as input? Is it really worth a $3000 diffrence???
Also, just an observation from one who has made many mistakes in my own marriage by doing what I wanted more than making a decision as a couple.
Obviously, since [Jedi] said that the could go with the lower cost one, the photos are not his utmost priority. He will go along with you because he will do anything to please you and make you happy right now. Believe me, people build unspoken resentment though and it comes out sideways years later. (I still heard in recent years how my head flower piece was more expensive than his suit.....:(
Anyway, think about it this way, now that you will no longer be single, by a couple. What would you think if [Jedi] spent $4000 of your common budget on something that was not THAT important to you (whether it is for the wedding or else).
As my sister told me this week, ([She] wanted to rent a chalet in the mountains for all the [Family] this coming Christmas). Quand on n'a pas de sous, il faut pas essayer de faire les riches...:)
Think long and hard before you commit. Good luck with your decision.
Is it bad that I still REALLY REALLY REALLY want the amazing photographer though? I mean, REALLY?