Thursday, March 25, 2010

... end to the cliffhanger!

Sorry to leave you all hanging like that! It's been an INSANE week...

I completed 63 pages of my thesis! Yippee... (Um, now I just need to write about 63 more before Tuesday. Should be awesome considering I have to work all weekend as well!)

So, well, I'm sure you're all wondering WHAT HAPPENED!?!

So, well... here's what happened.
As I said in my last post, Jedi and I had been discussing making things official for a little while. Frankly, it just got to the point where the pretense was mostly for my non-freaking out benefit, yanno? As in, I could say, yes I plan on being with him... but to make it formal? WHOA! Hold on, Nellie.

And then I realized... I felt at peace about it. That there's no one else I've ever met who makes me feel as good, as safe, as loved, as precious, as he does. Why WOULDN'T I want to purchase instead of lease (so to speak... ha.)

So, on Friday I mentioned to him that I thought it might be time to make things "official." We went out that night to a very nice restaurant and at the beginning of the meal he presented me with his great-great-aunt's ring. His mother wanted me to have half of the diamonds to be put into the setting I picked out (The other half of the diamonds will go to Jedi's sister when she's older.) I was REALLY touched-- to me, to do something like that is really to welcome me to the family FOR REALZ, yanno? (BTW- Have I mentioned that I LOVE LOVE LOVE Jedi's mother? She is SO sweet! I'm so lucky.)
There weren't any big speeches (Everyone's asked this question-- "How'd he do it!? SQUEEEE!") because the truth is that we've given the speeches to each other about a million times. There isn't a single day that Jedi doesn't tell me how much he loves me and why he loves me and why he wants to be with me. I have no doubts about any of it.

He did say that he would refrain from getting down on his knees as he knew that would offend my feminist sensibilities! Ha! Did I tell you he's the guy for me, or what!?

Well... soon after this a minor shit storm happened...
See, I figured that one of the first people to know it was "official" should be Ramses, who DID set Jedi and I up on our blind date, after all! So I texted him the news, but didn't hear back from him. A few seconds after I texted him my mother called just to chat, and so I spoke to her for about 15 minutes to tell her the news.

I LITERALLY got off the phone with my mom, and my phone rang IMMEDIATELY... It was Npapaya... and her first question to me was, "So what's this I hear about you being engaged?"


Sometimes I HATE living in small towns!!!!

Ramses had texted his friend who also happens to be friends with Npapaya our news... and well, the rest is history, obviously.

Npapaya was a bit miffed that I hadn't told her myself.

Well, I swore all these people to secrecy (as much secrecy as there is in this town, which means I may as well have taken out a billboard!)... but... well...
Of course, since I NEVER learn from my mistakes I did this not once, but TWICE. As I mentioned, It's been an insane week, and I've been out of town for most of it. I've not wanted to tell people over email or phone, so I've been holding off on telling people until I can see them in person. Additionally, I've not told my dad or grandparents since I'll be seeing them at Easter

Well, on Tuesday a former colleague emailed me about a random question, and told me that her daughter had just gotten engaged. Thinking nothing of it since she no longer works with the people I wanted to tell in person, I told her that I had also just gotten engaged.

Um. Yeah. THAT was a mistake.

About 10 minutes after that I get an email from my friend Di who is all, "WTF!?" and Also, "Why the hell did I have to hear about this from TESSA!"
For the record-- I can't stand Tessa... so as pissed as Di was, I was pissed too! I started getting emails from all sorts of people saying, "Congrats!"... grrr!

And then I realized... Tessa works with Gail. Gail happens to be best friends with my stepmom... and I can just see her calling my stepmom up and being all... "I just heard the good news!"

Argh! So, tomorrow morning I need to head her off and hope she hasn't already made that call! Eeek!

Oh-- did I mention the ring? That's always the first question people seem to have-- (That, and...When's the date! ARGH! The date will be sometime in 2012 I think, and I don't want to think about it yet...Seriously, what is wrong with people!)

As for the ring, this is what it looks like... (Smaller diamonds from Jedi's aunt's ring will be set in the swirls.) I went to go look at it today... I know it shouldn't matter what it looks like, but it gives me warm fuzzies to know that I will (Hopefully!) be wearing this ring for the next 50+ years! (eeek!)


arf said...

wow you do live in a small town.

When I got engaged, I didn't feel like spending the entire night on the phone telling people, so we wound up not telling anyone for almost a week. It was nice.

We've also been engaged for over 4 months and I refuse to pick a date yet. I'm going to spend the rest of my life with the man. When we have a wedding is just another day in that life. A happy, pretty, magical, transformative day, but just a day.

Anonymous said...

Wow, small towns suck. I was married for awhile before some people even knew I was engaged.

Your ring is gorgeous. Sharing the stones is a wonderful way to welcome you into the family. I think they like you. :)

Jan @ Struck by Serendipity said...


jo said...

you should have just taken out an ad in the papers to announce to everyone at the same time haha!

the ring looks gorgeous. and congrats! :)

Hypatia said...

Thank you all for the congrats!

Arf- Totally agreed! Glad I'm not the only one refusing to get involved in the whole "You must now rush to get married!" thing!

Perpetua- I love his family! His mom is the best!

Jan- Thanks!

Jo- That wouldn't have been a bad idea! ha!