Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Can you even SEE the line anymore?

Remember how I was just complaining about Jedi's ex, Cruddy, like... oh... 5 seconds ago?

She just stepped so far over the she wouldn't be able to SEE the line from where she is now.

So, after Jedi ignored Cruddy's texts this morning she took that as a sign to call him. Jedi answered the call (foolish, foolish man...!)...


I wasn't there, but apparently the call went something like this:

Cruddy: It's not nice to ignore your friends...

Jedi:... um...

Cruddy: I've been thinking about you alot lately. Why didn't you answer my texts? It's because of your new girlfriend, isn't it?

Jedi:.... um....

Cruddy: I saw your new pictures on facebook. You looked really hot.

Jedi: ... um...

Cruddy: I saw the way you were looking at Hypatia in your pictures. I miss you looking at me that way. I hope one day you'll look at me that way again. I'm with Hypatia...

Cruddy: I know. Do you think it will last forever? Will you invite me to the wedding? I probably won't be invited will I?

Jedi: ... Um... we're not getting married...

Cruddy: So would you invite me? I'm your friend, aren't I? You should invite your friends. You shouldn't ignore your friends.

Jedi: ... Um... I need to go...

Cruddy: I still want to be part of your life. I'll always love you. You're one of my best friends...

Jedi: ... Um... I have to pick up Hypatia. I need to go.

Cruddy: Call me back later!


Seriously!? WTF, right?

I mean, I'm not worried about Jedi cheating on me. He's shown me in more ways than one he's hopelessly devoted... But he's also a total pushover who hates confrontation.

I told him I didn't want to be one of "those" types of girlfriends-- the crazy, jealous, controlling types-- and so I wasn't going to tell him what to do-- but that he needed to do something because what she is doing is beyond inappropriate.

I told him that Cruddy is obviously NOT his "friend" because a real friend wouldn't be so disrespectful of his relationship and try to undermine it. She's (DUH DUH DUH!) using the "friendship" line as a way to stay connected in his life in the hopes that he'll eventually go back to her... (And become husband #7 presumably...).

I told him that he needed to point out to her how disingenuous she's being and call her on her bullshit by saying, "If you were really my friend you would respect my relationship. I can see that you're not at a place right now, based on what you've said, to be my friend. I think it's best that you're not in contact with me again until you can respect me and Hypatia."

He offered to go ahead and block her, but that would just give her more fodder for her delusions I think-- about how I'm being controling and keeping him from her because I'm insecure. It really needs to come from him and he needs to be direct about it... but knowing how he hates confrontation I don't know if that's going to happen. But he can't just keep ignoring her calls/texts the way he has been because it obviously just feeds her obsession.

Additionally, I told him that he needs to be SUPER clear with her because as a girl (with high-school level social skills) I know I would read his lack of directness as an invitation to continue contacting him... thinking to myself, his current girlfriend is temporary! He still has feelings for me (as evidenced by the fact that he didn't tell me to shove off!) I just need to bide my time!

Ugh. Yuck.

As a side note, Cruddy's 16 year old daughter just contacted Jedi on IM to tell him how hot he is in his new pictures.


That family has some issues they need to work out.


Perpetua said...

Ooh, girl! Just wait 'til I take my rings off! :)

Okay, seriously: she is completely, utterly, over the line. I wasn't in this exact situation, because Wizard's ex never went so crazy-far as to say she wanted him back, but once the texts turned into phone calls, and after a few other incidents, I told her he had to cut contact. He agreed. It was really just too ridiculous.

She might get off on feeling like you're controlling him, but you know what? Eff her. What he needs to say is that cutting contact is his idea, not yours. And then? He must stop picking up the phone.

Because that chick is crazy.

And if I really am you, two years in the future, then I can tell you that you will someday laugh at the craziness together. In the meantime, try not to let it get to you.

P.S. And the daughter? Nutso!

Hypatia said...

Ooo! Sorry it took me so long to respond to this comment! I must have responded to it in my head only.

Yes, she is nutso. He's cut contact, and you're right, I don't give a crap what she thinks.