Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Do you live in a black hole?

I got an email from the coffee date I had last week... almost exactly a WEEK after I wrote to him.

Now, I'm not one of those girls who thinks a guy needs to respond ASAP (ok, who am I kidding. I'm TOTALLY one of those girls. BUT I make a point to hide it well.) but I think anything over 3 days unless you have an excuse like, "I was out of the country," "My grandma is in the hospital," or "I went to a Buddhist commune for a week," is unacceptable.

Right? Right??? Am I right?

I had written to him after our coffee date to say that I'd be up for getting together this Thurs or Fri. Well, Now I have plans. (Not that he asked me to get together mind you... Actually, This is what he wrote-- I hope you had a nice weekend and you were out enjoying the sun. Sorry I didn't get back to you right away, I was visiting some friends and they didn't have a computer. I'm on my lunch break and only have a few minutes left, but hope all is well. -- Not much to go on, right? I mean-- what do I say to that?

If anything??? My inclination is to fuggidaboutit. What say you?


arf said...

Meet up with him if you think having something to do will make you happier than a quiet night at home; don't if you don't.

Your posts read like you're just not that into him.

Hypatia said...

You're right. I have a terrible attitude about it. (As Npapaya always says, "Are you sure you actually want to be dating?"

And I think that's the problem-- I DON'T actually want to be dating. I'd like to be WITH someone, but the dating part is effing annoying. Finding out whether or not someone is trustworthy, dependable, kind, etc... Takes time and effort. Time and effort I don't usually want to put in.

I think that's part of the reason I have a crush on Descartes... I can skip all those--"Can I trust you" stages because he comes with the Good Friendship Seal of Approval.

arf said...

I totally hear you on the dating sucks thing.